• This is a blog entry called "Crazy Thoughts"
• In it I claim that
you're mad - just like me, and the rest of us!
• And: I show you why, how
and what to do about it.
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Crazy Thoughts about You and Me
If you are like me
and pretty much everybody else, then you're stark raving mad.
Or, at least a part of you is. Nuts. Round the bend. Bonkers.
Off the wall. Wacky. Mad as a hatter. Barmy.
I know that it's a pretty drastic statement. But it's not
one that I make lightly. I make it based on observation - of
me, of those around me, on my coaching clients, and of the
people in the city where I live.
Thus, the first of
several very appropriate inspirational sayings for this blog
entry is:All of us are crazy in one way or another.
~ Yiddish proverb
And an appropriate second funny
inspirational quotation is this:What sane person could
live in this world and not be crazy?
~ Ursula K. LeGuin
Right now, you may be thinking "Crazy, I'm not crazy!
Enough with your crazy thoughts!" But in fact your resistance
to the thought and the mere mention of the word "I" in your
response reveals your craziness.
If you resist the thought that you are in fact quite
mad, there's probably something to it - why else would you
need to resist it? People only resist and get upset about
statements that they feel are true but not acceptable. Have
And the word "I" is one that people who
entertain a normal (and thus very large) amount of crazy
thoughts use a lot, both in their heads, in their sentences
and in their actions. It's a sign of an ego running rampant.
Rampant fear based egos create ecologically unsound conditions,
as can be witnessed simply by looking at the state of the
Since we are all one, it's very tempting
to say that in truth there is no "I", but well, to most people
that doesn't make a lot of sense (even if it is very true),
and so we'll get back to that some other time.
don't worry, you're not alone with your crazy thoughts, etc.
I'm right there with you in your madness, and so is most of
the rest of the world.
In a mad world, only the mad are
~ Akira Kurosawa
Not that Mr. Kurosawa is
necessarily more than half right. The mad might very well be
mad, too, you never know. But his statement has a nice ring to
So, then, let's take a tour through our collective
Madness in My Own Life
I am a
healthy male in my prime. I can do things that most people
would consider remarkable - like for instance healing (both
remote healing and hands on); inner journeys; writing books
and creating websites; sensing, accepting and understanding
other people almost immediately, and doing the most potent
coaching you're likely to encounter on any given Wednesday.
Still, on a semi-regular basis I get scared and lose faith
in my ability to create the life I want. That's crazy!
I have a female partner. She's a truly magnificent woman who,
most of the time, is quite unaware of - and in fact doubtful
of - her own magnificence. That's crazy!
I love her and
she loves me. Not just a little, but a lot. Of that I have not
a shred of doubt. In fact, our love seems deeper and more
unconditional than the love of most people around us.
This love is a most powerful connection which enables us to do
and experience surprising, wonderful and utterly extraordinary
things together, both in our daily lives and in our sex life.
(I'll probably get back to that in a later blog entry).
Still, sometimes one of us gets taken over by some
irrational fear or other, and when that happens, we almost
lose our powerful connection plus all the wonderful things it
entails. That's crazy!
I live in what is a big city by local standards -
Copenhagen, the capital of Denmark. On a global scale
Copenhagen isn't that big. New York in the US of A, for
instance, is more than 15 timers bigger. But Copenhagen is big
enough to house a lot of ordinary people who go mad on a
There are times, you see, when I don't
venture out into the city unless I have to, because the level
of madness depends on the time of year, day of the week and
the time of day. That sounds crazy, I know, but listen:
For instance, the peak of summer (July and August) is much
better than, say, November or May. Or December which is
On a day-to-day basis the
Saturdays between 11.00 and 15.00 o'clock plus and the five
workdays between 15.30 and 17.30 are the worst times.
The best days are definitely Sundays. In the summer. Any time
Oh, yeah, I've given this some thought. Used my
powers of observation. This is what happens:
citizens of Copenhagen are mostly employees - wage slaves, you
might call them. In fact I used to be one of those, too,
before I opted for self employment instead.
these wage slaves all have to be at their work at roughly the
same time, which means that they all crowd into the streets at
the same time. Obviously this means that traffic pretty much
stops and everybody is in danger of arriving late, which in
turn makes everybody stressed from the very beginning of the
Many of those poor souls have jobs
that they don't even like. In fact, some of them do work that
they very nearly hate. They get stressed by it, too.
This takes place even though they might just as well have been
making a living out of doing one or more of the things they
love. That's crazy!
As it happens most of these
worker bees get off from work at roughly the same time in the
afternoon ... meaning that they crowd the streets trying to
get home, too. Yep, that's crazy. But wait, it gets worse.
everyone else, the working people have to eat, so they have to
go shopping. Unfortunately most shops are open during the time
when people don't have time to shop because they're at work,
too. (In Denmark the shop opening hours are regulated by law).
Consequently the shop clerks are somewhat bored during the
day and wildly stressed during the afternoon when everybody
and his sister has to shop just before the shops close.
What a crazy waste, right? But wait, it gets even worse.
of these nice people have children. Since they're off doing an
alternately boring and stressed out job that they may not even
like, they hardly have time for their young ones.
Therefore the children are put in day care, and while they do
develop social skills in the interaction with the other
children there's something vital that they're missing: When
those children get home, they're tired and in desperate need
of the one-on-one love and attention that they've missed
during the day.
Of course, their parents aren't really
able to give it to them because they've spent their best
waking hours in stressed traffic, at stressed work and doing
even more stressed out shopping. And now they have to cook.
Yes, indeed, that's just plain crazy!
So, what do those
desperate parents do? They put their children in front of the
Now, on the whole television, which has
such educational possibilities, has developed into a lot of
fast paced meaningless pictures and stories whose net effect
is to induce negative emotions, particularly fear.
Subjecting our kids to this kind of junk is ... well, crazy.
And what I have described is just the tip of
the iceberg. But none of the above things is the most crazy
thing of all. The craziest thing is that all those people KEEP
ON DOING IT, day after day, year after year.
physicist and thinker once said:
Insanity: doing the
same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
~ Albert Einstein
Why are most people behaving in
ways that must be described as mad? For the most stupid reason
possible: Because everybody else seems to be doing it.
There is no salvation in becoming adapted to a world which is
~ Henry Miller
YOUR Crazy Thoughts
So we get to you. You didn't think I'd let you off the hook,
did you? I won't.
In fact I'm going to use you as an
example of what's really going on - and thus as a means of
inducing consciousness - a stepping stone towards helping you
with personal development, personal growth and inspiration.
So, how are you feeling today? If you are like most people
your thoughts are not filled with positive self talk, rather
they are crazy with (mostly unconscious) fear; your feelings
are in an almost perpetual state of mild or even wild uproar;
and your behaviour is ecologically unsound and directly
damaging to yourself, too. As witnessed by the examples above
and many more.
Why is it so?
You Think Crazy Thoughts
Now, the underlying (conscious or
unconscious) feeling of fear is the reason you think crazy
thoughts, but what is it you're afraid of?
likely you're plagued by un-inspirational thoughts/feelings
like: What if you don't get enough money? Or food? Or
recognition? Or safety? Or love? Or ... you name it, and the
odds are that you're scared of scarcity in that area.
In other words: Your constant underlying fear is that you're
not going to get your various needs met
but highly controversial writer once said:The
distinction between children and adults, while probably useful
for some purposes, is at bottom a specious one, I feel. There
are only individual egos, crazy for love.
But the question is: why are you living
in that kind of fear?
What Lies Behind Crazy
Thoughts and Feelings of Fear?
Your crazy actions are
spurred on by crazy thoughts, which in turn are spurred on by
crazy feelings of fear. What lies behind the fear?
answer is: Belief. Crazy beliefs. Beliefs which are fear based
and highly limiting.
Basically you don't really think
you're good enough, and you're pretty convinced that life
isn't the way it's supposed to be, either. Those are crazy
Your belief is likely to be like this:
Whatever nice thing we're talking about, it's probably highly
dangerous, probably NOT possible, and if it were, then YOU
probably wouldn't be able to do it.
conscious of it or not you likely have low life esteem plus
low self esteem, and like I said, inside your head there's NOT
a lot of positive self talk. Rather ... there are likely to be
a lot of crazy thoughts.
And those are just very
general examples. Most people hold an incredible amount of
negative, limiting, fear based beliefs. Which they never
examine. Much to their own detriment.
Consequences of Crazy Thoughts, Feelings & Beliefs
happens when you hold negative, limiting beliefs like those
Well, the world becomes a dangerous,
unpleasant place to you ... and what with your not being good
enough, you spend a lot of time fighting, coping, worrying and
being afraid - and not very much of your time feeling peace,
joy and love. (And let's NOT talk about your kids, here).
In the not-quite-immortal words of a television cartoon
character:"Marge, there's just too much pressure. What
with my job, the kids, traffic snarls, political strife at
home and abroad. But I promise you, the second all those
things go away, we'll have sex."
~ 'Homer Simpson'
You're not so much enjoying life as just trying to get
by. Life has become a struggle. You see problems, not
challenges. You definitely feel the need for strategies to
survive. So, what do you do?
the face of all the imagined danger you rely heavily on your
fear based problem-solver and master of coping-strategies,
And hey presto! you're mad. Barmy, crazy, round
Now, don't get me wrong: I'm not saying, 'blame
the ego'. I'm also not saying blame yourself. Blame doesn't
have ANY positive effects and there really is no reason to
blame anyone or anything.
Your ego is just a machine,
doing its job. Actually, with all that most of us are
demanding of our egos, most of them are heavily overtaxed.
Your ego is a survival mechanism. It's great for certain
things like strategizing and solving problems. But that's it.
It really shouldn't be used for anything else, and in truth
there isn't really much use for strategizing or problem
Because, you see, things aren't the
way you think they are when you rely on your ego. Happily!
Mr. Machiavelli, whom I quoted
as saying "There are only individual egos, crazy for love" was
on to something. But the ego is not "all there is", not by a
long shot. You certainly exist independently of your ego.
Sadly, most people never realize this. And there we have
it: The basis of all the crazy thoughts, feelings, needs,
behaviours and beliefs: Lack of consciousness, lack of
practical experience regarding our real identity.
have all been brought up to believe in a mechanical, fear
based kind of identity, the ego. But those are crazy thoughts
for the ego is a pseudo-identity. It's just a machine, a tiny
part of who we really are.
However, since everybody
else around us is thinking those crazy thoughts and believing
those crazy things, we do, too. It's 'normal'. That doesn't
make it true, though.
So, what IS the truth?
The truth is all around us,
everywhere, all the time. And, more importantly, the truth is
inside us, too. And it's SO easy to find.
only stillness. Presence. Awareness. It requires that you STOP
thinking, STOP fearing, STOP doing and simply breathe and
exist. Relax. Breathe. Exist. Right here, right now.
great modern spiritual teacher put it like this:
people treat the present moment as if it were an obstacle that
they need to overcome. Since the present moment is Life itself,
it is an insane way to live.
~ Eckhart Tolle
Letting Go of the Crazy Thoughts, etc.: How to Do It
Many, many people I have met and worked with have asked me: "That's
great, I can feel the truth of what you're saying, but how do
I DO that?"
And then I have helped them to the
experience. The experience is actually the opposite of doing,
it's being. Existing.
What you 'do' is this: You stop
doing and start being, you relax and let go. Let go completely.
The more completely you let go of everything the more
powerful your experience of absolute reality will be.
Yes, when 'doing' that you will probably face your fear, but
if you accept that and move through it, you will get the
experience of seeing the truth.
When we remember that
we are all mad, the mysteries disappear and life stands
~ Mark Twain
And before you ask: Yes,
I have developed several techniques for doing this, all of
which I have gathered under the name of 'The Let Go Method',
briefly described on the page Letting Go. Soon, on this very
website, you'll be able to buy material that describes all of
that in detail.
Until then: Just find a quiet spot, sit
down, relax, breathe and slowly empty your mind of all those
crazy thoughts, feelings, needs and beliefs.
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