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What Makes You (and Other People) Tick?
Don't you sometimes wonder why
other people behave the way they do? Don't you sometimes wonder why YOU behave
the way you do?
Well, now you can get some extremely precise answers to
Both you and other people actually behave in a pretty predictable
manner. There is a reason for that, and that reason is called the
Your ego is a small part of you, a fear-based mental survival mechanism,
designed to help you solve problems and get your needs fulfilled.
you are like most people, you put a lot of store in your ego, and you let it
decide many things in your life. In other words:
You are identified with
your ego. You think and believe that this small part of you IS you and that you
are your ego. This, of course, is far from true (more about that later).
Egos come in a variety of flavours or types: Nine to be exact. Every single one
of them completely predictable.
What Is the Enneagram?
Enneagram is both a graphical figure and a comprehensive system categorizing 9
different kinds of ego and liberating human consciousness. (The latter is
sometimes called 'The Enneagram of Personality').
I use the word to cover
both meanings, i.e. when I say 'the Enneagram' I mean both the graphical figure
and the system for categorizing egos and liberating consciousness.
Everyone has got an ego. You, too. Like I said, this likely makes your behaviour
pretty predictable. And since the ego is fear-based, that behaviour isn't going
to give you too many pleasant experiences.
The point of discovering your
own ego-type is to liberate yourself from this fixed and fear-based pattern of
behaviour. In other words:The purpose of finding out which box your ego
is teaching you how to get out of the box!
Used in this way the
Enneagram is a most powerful tool, not only for
help, but also for spiritual awakening, spiritual enlightenment.
Discovering the Enneagram
If you are only now reading about the Enneagram
for the first time, you are in for a very special treat. This system is
amazingly comprehensive and you can study it for years and still make thrilling
new discoveries on a regular basis (believe me, because I'm talking about
This system has something to offer almost everyone - from
the novice to the very experienced user.
Getting Out of Your Box
The point of learning all this about the Enneagram and your ego type is to
realize which box your ego fits into, so that you may start to work your way OUT
of that box, i.e. start NOT acting in the automatic and fear-based way that you
have been most of the time up until now.
Also, you may use your new
knowledge in your relationships (both at home and at work). In essence the
Enneagram is a system that describes ego psychology.
Understanding other people
better is a great starting point for creating better relationships. And you WILL
learn how to understand other people better! Both your love partner, your
children, your colleagues and your boss.
When you consciously realize the
(mechanical) ways your ego reacts, you get a choice that you didn't have before:
Do you want to keep doing what you've always done and get the same results,
or do you want to change your behaviour and get some different results?
The first time you realize that your ego would normally have had you do one
thing, but you now consciously do another and better thing, well, that just
feels SO great!
In the end, of course, you may choose to
all your ego inspired patterns and habits. The long term net effect of this is:
great freedom, well being and
. In fact, using your knowledge about the Enneagram and your ego can be a path to spiritual enlightenment.
Understand Your Ego via the
This is the best way I know for getting to know
your ego. Nine basic types of ego are described, and that
includes (among other things) nine ways of thinking, feeling,
acting and generally being in the world. So, which one is
You can start by taking the Enneagram
Test [LINK]. As you do so, please remember that the Enneagram
Test is thorough, but by no means final. The same goes for the
words and opinions of experts like myself. You, and only you,
are the judge of what basic type your ego is!STEP 2:
Having done the test, you might continue by reading about your
particular type of ego. An e-book or special report [LINK]
about the Enneagram (for sale) will be forthcoming, but there
will also be some very basic information on this website (see
If you are up to reading a big book on the
subject I'd recommend 'The Wisdom of the Enneagram
' by Don
Richard Riso and Russ Hudson.
So far, that's the best all
round book on the market, although there is actually lots of
literature about it. STEP 3:
reading, your best bet is the relationship keys. Because, you
see, even though your ego isn't another person, but rather a
part of you, you can still cultivate a good relationship to
The relationship keys are 12 keys that you can use
to do this. Probably the most important ones are openness,
awareness, understanding and acceptance. If you use those when
dealing with your ego, then you'll be well on your way.
And after that you might want some one-on-one
coaching or guidance, which I can provide, either by telephone
or by e-mail. (Of course you don't need to take the 3
preceding steps to get this!)
The Nine Types of
Your immediate goal is to better understand your ego. Here are some short descriptions of
the nine basic ego-types:
Type 1, the perfectionist reformer
, also known as:
the critic, the judge, the rule-bound person, the idealist.
Type 2, the friendly helper
, also known as:
the empath, the creator of intimate relationships, the
manipulator, the giver, the special friend.
3, the hardworking achiever
, also known as:
motivator, the deciever, the chameleon, the succeeder, the
workaholic, the I-must-be-the-best person, the producer, the
Type 4, the romantic individualist
, also known as:
the tragic, the artist, the connoisseur,
the lover of uniqueness, the lonely one, the drama queen/king,
Type 5, the objective investigator
, also known as:
the sage, the observer, the
thinker, the scientist, the intellectual, the innovator, the
Type 6, the critical loyalist
the troubleshooter, the questioner, the devil's
advocate, the predictor, the pessimist, the realist, the
sceptic, the guardian.
Type 7, the enthusiastic
, also known as:
the epicure, the
optimist, the entertainer, the dreamer, the generalist, the
scatterbrain, the visionary.
Type 8, the assertive leader
, also known as:
the challenger, the
confronter, the boss, the protector, the No B.S. person, the
dominator, the top dog.
Type 9, the mediating peacemaker
, also known as:
the optimist, the
ambassador, the keeper of the status quo, the self adaptor,
the preservationist, the lover of harmony.
the Enneagram in Your Relationships
yourself there are countless other applications for this
powerful system. One of the most important ones is
understanding other people. That makes it so much easier to
build good, lasting, conflict-free relationships to them. This
is true whether you want to better understand your love
partner, your family, your co-workers or your boss.
Enneagram and Spirituality
As mentioned this system is
focussed on liberating human consciousness, i.e. your
consciousness, from the unconscious 'slavery' that comes from
being identified with your ego (as exemplified by your
Enneagram-type). In other words: The Enneagram can be used as
a tool for spiritual enlightenment .
There is one
thing that I have to make very clear, though:
nothing wrong with having an ego. There is nothing wrong with
your particular ego and YOU DO NOT WANT TO FIGHT YOUR EGO!
Fighting an integral part of yourself, a part that you
have spent years perfecting - a part that also happens to be
the most sophisticated defence mechanism in your life ...
makes no sense what so ever.
No, you'll want to get to
know and accept your ego just the way it is, and create an
excellent cooperative relationship with it. Your ego is
skilled - utilize those skills. Just remember that your ego is
a part of you - not the whole you. It is no more the whole you
than your hand is the whole you. Your hand is part of you and
a tool, and so is your ego.
The first step in using the
Enneagram to further your spiritual development is getting to
know and understand your ego.
The second step is
remembering the above fact: that you will want to cooperate
with, and not fight your ego.
The third step is letting
your ego tell you of all your needs, all your problems and all
the things that it fears. This information is invaluable, for
those are the very things that you will want to let go of.
of those things are a direct path to spiritual
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