• You want money and material possessions, right?
• Or do you want
• Do you feel poor? Learn how to change that.
• Trapped in the
rat race? Find out what the rat race really is.
• Find out what's keeping
you in the rat race.
• Get the two most important keys on how to escape the
You want money, right? Lots of money!
You also want things, material
A nice big place to live, situated somewhere you like; and
perhaps an extra place to live (like a cottage or summer house), somewhere else.
You want nice means of transportation (cars, motorbikes, bikes, boats, etc.) and
communication (telephones, computers, personal digital assistants (PDAs), etc.).
Furthermore, you want nice clothes, nice food, nice entertainment and lots
of other nice things that you would maybe call necessities.
You want all that, right? Or, most of it at least. Well, there is no
surprise there. Most people do.
Your demands may vary according to your
culture and where you live (and thus according to what other people around you
have and you expect), but generally speaking YOU WANT IT ALL.
Question - and a Key
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself why?
you need all that money and all those material possessions?
sentence actually contains the key. The key is the word 'need'.
experience some sort of need inside yourself. You think and believe something
about this need and the fulfilment of it and you let that control you. It's all
happening inside you.
Now, you don't NEED to know what is going on inside
you, of course. You can just continue being and doing what you have been and
done so far ... and get the same results you have been getting so far. But is
that what you want?
The Rat Race: Hopelessly Trying to Fulfil Your
If you are one of the countless people who have been participating in
what has interestingly been called the rat race, and you are reading this,
chances are that you are getting tired of being in the rat race. Tired of
getting the results that you have been getting so far. You may be ready for a
Your results up until now may be great in terms of money and
material possessions ... or they may be less than great; they may even be
dismal. Either way you are probably looking into personal development, self
help, self improvement and spirituality because you are not satisfied.
The previous sentence contains another key word: 'satisfied'. So now we have two
key words: needs and satisfied. Which means that we have a fix on your
You want your needs satisfied.
It's as simple as that.
This is the primary reason why you engage in the rat race. The primary reason
why you want money and material possessions. It's so that you can get your needs
But you know what? It doesn't work.
Or, it works, but
only a tiny bit - up to a level which you will VERY quickly reach. After that it
is a fact, an annoying fact, that the 'hole' you feel inside you CANNOT be
filled up using money and material possessions.
So, maybe you DO need to
understand what is going on inside you - and how to deal with it. You need some
knowledge and some keys to escaping the rat race.
If You Feel Poor
If you currently feel poor, getting money and material possessions is quite
possible and attainable.
Ultimately, though, more money and more material possessions are
NOT going to satisfy you.
Instead, what you need to figure out is:
How much is ENOUGH? Exactly how much?
Exactly how much money (e.g. per
month) is enough?
Exactly how many houses, apartments, refrigerators,
cars, boats, chairs, paintings, clothes, toothbrushes, etc. is enough?
Money and Material Possessions are Impermanent
all, please realize that money and material possessions are relative, temporary
things. Sometimes you have them, sometimes you don't. If you let that matter too
much to you, then you are making your life an unnecessarily bumpy and unhappy
ride. This has been termed 'getting caught up in the money game' and 'unhealthy
attachment to possessions', respectively.
Accepting the fact that money
and material possessions come and go, and that this is all right is an
excellent, empowering thing to do.
And why wouldn't you? The fact that
they come and go means that even though they go away, they do in fact come back
The Fear Factor
There is another, very important factor
that we must take into account, though: Fear. Most people fear not having
enough, and if they fear it enough and start acting as though their fear were
real, they may actually make it real in their experience.
enough, once you let go
of your fear with regards to having enough money and
material possessions, then money and material abundance start flowing to you all
Why? Perhaps because without the fear you are more open,
receptive and in line with life itself?
Your Primary Key to Escaping
the Rat Race
In many ways the primary key to escaping the rat race is
learning how to distinguish between:
... which are the temporary
(and relative) things/thingamajigs you THINK you want- Happiness
which is the permanent (and absolute) thing/thingamajig you REALLY want
Let's look briefly at each of them so that you can distinguish them from each
There are seven basic needs which come in an
infinite number of variations.
For example your basic human need for
control comes in variations like: your specific needs to control your home (e.g.
how it looks, what it contains and that you can pay the rent); or your job (e.g.
that you are doing something worthwhile, getting adequately paid and get along
with your colleagues and your boss); or your sport, or your partner, or your
children, or your dog, or yourself, or simply an everyday shopping situation in
your local store.
Theoretically speaking all the seven basic human needs
are relative and thus their fulfilment provides only temporary
satisfaction. This is important!
It means that even if you fulfil a need
right now, the need will be back a moment later. If not today, then tomorrow, or
the day after. Why?
Needs Are 90 Percent Thoughts and Belief
answer is: Because the need is something like 90 percent THOUGHT and
BELIEFS and only about 10 percent real.
In other words, you do
need some things (like water, food, shelter, love, meaning in your life, etc.),
but you only need about 10 percent of what you think you need. The rest is just
Haven't you noticed how thoughts keep repeating themselves
over and over and over? Well, since your needs are mostly thought, they do the
same thing. In other words, your needs will keep coming back to haunt you.
Do you really need that amount of money each month? No, you don't. Not
REALLY. Do you really need that house, apartment, car, piece of designer
clothing, you-name-it? Nope. Do you really need that EXTRA money and that EXTRA
you-name-it? Of course you don't.
Yes, you probably think you do ... in order to
feel safe, maybe ... but really, you don't. Most likely it clutters up your life
and you would probably be much better off with less.
But you really think
you need all that money, all those things. You really do. Because your needs
keep coming back again and again. However, if you believe more that 10 percent
of what your needs say, well, then you are setting yourself up as a rat in the
Recurring Needs Become Habits,
and Habits Become Beliefs
Most people are like that ... you, too,
if you are like most people. At some point you have started to
believe the make believe of your needs, and at some point after that
you have developed habits that support the fulfilment of those make
Today, those are old habits, and you do not
even question them anymore. They are on the verge of becoming
beliefs [LINK] to you, or they have already become your beliefs.
So: You are trapped. Your own thoughts, make believe needs,
habits and beliefs have made you a rat trapped in the rat race.
There IS an alternative, though.
condition of happiness equals permanent satisfaction. (Please notice
that I am talking about being happy for no apparent reason here;
being happy simply because you exist). Permanent satisfaction ...
this is what you are REALLY looking for!
is basically absolute in nature, which means that it is
If you do not experience some kind of happiness
all the time (and most people emphatically do not) then it is simply
because something has come in the way of your experience - much like
the sun is always shining, but sometimes clouds get in the way of
your experience of that.
The most common type of 'cloud'
(when it comes to happiness) is fear.
I know that
saying 'happiness is always there, like the sun' probably sounds
unbelievable to many people. Nevertheless there are people walking
this earth who are genuinely happy most of the time. And (happily)
their numbers are growing (according to research). I have known a
few of these people in my lifetime, and I guess I myself am rapidly
becoming one of them.
Does Happy Equal Stupid?
people consider happy people naïve or even stupid. Because they are
not happy themselves, they cannot take happy people seriously. Well,
that's just the way relative reality works.
choose to be unhappy much of the time, then that's what you will be.
Your personal reality will reflect your choice and be an unhappy
reality. Being unhappy is just as valid a choice as being happy, and
an unhappy personal reality is just as (personally) real as a happy
personal reality. It's all up to you.
The Acid Test:
Letting Go of Your Fear
To test the hypothesis that happiness is
always there, all you have to do is start letting go
fears. Whenever you release one of your fears, you become much more
happy in the moment, and a little bit more happy on a permanent
Please click on this link if you want to understand
Your Secondary Key to Escaping the
The secondary key to escaping the rat race and the
mindless hunt for more money and more material possessions is ...
your primary focus.
Now, basically there are two kinds of
primary focus you can have:
- A primary focus on GETTING;
which is an acceptance/love based focus on something positive that
you WANT (desire)
- A primary focus on AVOIDING
; which is a
fear based focus on something negative that you DON'T WANT
Having your primary focus be acceptance based and on something
positive is much more powerful than having your primary focus be
fear based and on something negative. The positive, acceptance based
focus is much more in tune with the way life is and works
(unconditional love) than the negative, fear based focus.
isn't wanting more money and more material possessions a focus on
GETTING? Yes, it is. But we are talking about your PRIMARY focus (in
life) here, not just your focus on any given thing (like money or
Find Your Primary Focus
out what your primary focus is, you might take the focus-test
[LINK], or you can ask yourself this:
'Deep down WHY do I
want more money (or: more material things) ...'
'- Is it
because there is something positive I would love to experience -
something that would give me a deep and perhaps even lasting feeling
of joy, love and wholeness?'
'- Is it because there
is something negative that I fear and do not want to experience - so
that I am now focused on safety, security and avoidance?'
Some people will answer 'both' to this question. Maybe you do, too.
But that is because you are not being completely, unconditionally
honest with yourself. You KNOW whether your primary focus is based
in love (GETTING) or in fear (AVOIDING).
And if you feel that
you really, truly don't know, then you can probably assume that it
is based in fear and a focus on AVOIDING, because that is how it is
for most people, and if you have the love based focus, you will
probably know it.
Focusing on your need for money and material possessions will most likely lead you
to fear and a condition of being unhappy most of the time - no
matter how much money, etc. you get.
Generally speaking you
will probably want to focus beyond your needs, beyond money and
the meaning of life
are good places to start.
Also, money and material
possessions come and go: sometimes you have them; sometimes you
don't. Accepting this is a way to empower yourself.
Furthermore switching your focus from fear and avoidance to getting
that which you love and desire will empower you no end.
funny thing is that as you do these things, money and material
abundance follow all by themselves!
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