What is happiness?
Read the definition of happiness given by the
... and the one given by the Personal Development Guy.
Is There Anything Better?
Ah, happiness! Is there anything better? Of
course there isn't. Happiness is what we all really want.
The the heaps of
money, or the red sports car, or the slick, streamlined yacht, or the never
ending sex, or the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend, or the wonderful house, or the
loving family that we fantasize about - all those things are just what we think
and imagine will give us the thing that we crave above all else: Happiness.
Working as a coach and a counsellor for many years has taught me this.
The Dictionary's Definition of Happiness
defines happiness as a state of well-being characterized by emotions
ranging from contentment to intense joy.
The PD-Guy's Definition of Happiness: Short Version
My short definition of happiness
Happiness is the highly pleasurable experience
our most basic nature and identity as a unified whole
result of 100 percent authenticity and no fear.
PD-Guy's Definition of Happiness: Long Version
My longer definition of happiness
Happiness is one form that the experience of our
true identity takes.
Other forms, other words for the same
experience include unconditional love, Home, inner peace, serenity,
joy, ecstasy, unity, wholeness, I AM, spiritual enlightenment and
many, many more.
also call it: Being a unified whole (that consists of many, smaller
unified wholes) which is part of a larger unified whole.
Although this highly pleasurable state of being is actually our base
line, most of us are not experiencing it much in our daily lives
because all sorts of fear-based things have been put on top of it,
thus obscuring it. Only in the absence of fear does it shine
In the complete absence of fear happiness,
unconditional love, Home, inner peace, etc. once again becomes our
base line of experience - our normal, basic and natural state of
Thus happiness is hardly something to strive for and
achieve, rather it is something you can relax into (by letting go of
fear). You can do this relaxation gradually over a long period of
time or in a split second.
Any actions taken in this
naturally happy and fear-free state of being will be natural
extensions of the condition and will thus tend to strengthen it. One
might call this: doing what you are. Another way of putting all this
would be: Being authentically you and doing it, too (which happens
to be very close to the title of a book I have written which will be
published soon [LINK]).
The experience of our base line
happiness can last from a split second to a long period of time. In
fact it only goes away when you overlay it with non-wholeness and
fear (thus letting those two misunderstandings become real for you
The feeling of 'melding together and becoming one'
that you may have during sex, plus sexual orgasm are examples of our
base line condition of happiness.
Finishing Comments on 'A Definition of Happiness'
You may be surprised to read that a state of happiness and inner
peace is what I define as our actual, authentic 'base line of
being'. Based on your experience of daily life you may think this
claim is unrealistic - or even crazy. I assure you that it is not.
The thing is, though, that fear based beliefs, fear based
thinking and fear based actions are running rampant in the world
today, and so what most people would call 'normal' is actually
pretty crazy - simply because it is based on fear and not aware
consciousness and love.
What, then, about the state
contentment which the dictionary mentions?
is first and foremost the absence of discontent which primarly
signifies that you feel your needs are adequately met (please check
out the middle of this page
for an overview of your needs). Is this
absence of discontent happiness?
Hardly, or only by a stretch of my definition, because your needs
can be met for the moment, and yet you still harbor fear (e.g. that
your needs will not be met tomorrow), which means you are not really
happy. You are still below the base line.
Your base line
state of happiness occurs in the complete absence of fear (in one
area of your life or in many).
The complete absence of fear
occurs if and when you
let go completely
of your fear. The good news is you can
actually do this. In one area of your life, in several areas of your
life, or in all of them. You may do this
process all at once (instant spiritual enlightenment)
or one small step at a time, just as you please.
way you choose to do it, you will most likely encounter your fear -
it comes up so that you can let it go and be rid of it.
Please don't forget that it is entirey doable. Good luck with
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