• You want to know what personal development is?
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• High-level info on the nature of personal development
A Short Answer
Since you're here you're probably
asking yourself, "What is personal development?" or "What is
The short answer to that is that:
Personal development and self improvement is change ...
for the better.
This implies one very interesting thing
- that the present state of affairs isn't good enough. We'll
get back to that in a moment.
A Lot of
The somewhat longer answer to the
question you're probably asking yourself is that personal
development or self improvement seems to be something a little
bit different for everyone.
Each of us has our own way
of looking at ourselves (self concept and self esteem) and
life (life philosophy and life esteem).
One person may
struggle in areas of prosperity and abundance. Another may
have long standing relationship issues, or searching for love.
You may deal with low self esteem, or want to be a better
leader - or employee, or both - or something else entirely.
You may even be searching for what some consider 'the
philosopher's stone' of personal development: spiritual
If any of this is true for you, you're
not alone. A lot of people are on a quest to better themselves
and there is no shortage of self improvement courses and
personal development tools available to help.
What Is Personal
development and what is self improvement?
Lot of Personal Development Help Is Readily Available
But Does It Work?
You can read insightful books, listen to
audios, or watch DVD courses. You can attend seminars and
For a lot of people meditation is also a
helpful personal development tool as it allows you to quiet
your mind so you can discover who you really are and what you
want out of life.
You can also do inner journeys of
different kinds (something which I, personally love).
Courses and coaching / guidance are beneficial, too, because
sometimes you need a little push, just a bit of help on the
road to personal development. If you are dealing with anger
management issues, for example, or feelings of low self worth,
you may not have any idea how to deal with the negative
thoughts and feelings.
Or, if you simply are looking
for inner peace a coach, guide, mentor or teacher, even if it
is just the right book at the right time, can be a big help.
Some good folks fall into the trap of collecting personal
development books, self help audio, self improvement DVDs,
etc. It's so easy to get stuck in the endless loop of
searching for the ultimate personal development tool. This is
fun, of course, and as good a hobby as any. I, myself, have
done it for years and years.
In the end though, it's
not likely to bring you and your life that much further along.
In fact, mostly it's just making the process a bit longer and
more difficult than it needs to be. Which is okay, of course,
seeing as how that might be exactly what you (subconsciously)
want. After all, your
hates change. Nothing wrong with that.
But let me just point you in a different direction, here,
with a bit of talk about what the point of the whole 'personal
development and self improvement exercise' is.
Where to Focus?
A person asking 'what is personal
development?' (that would be you) is likely to be on a quest.
A quest to become a better person, or a quest to have a better
Point number one is, those two things (a better
person, a better life) are essentially the same thing.
Personal development, then, is basically:Making a
conscious effort to improve your life EXPERIENCE.
is what you and hundreds of thousands, perhaps even millions
of other people are doing. And that begs questions like ...
What Is Wrong With Everybody?
Why do we feel
need to improve ourselves and our lives? Is there REALLY
something wrong? Are you really not good enough? Is there
actually something wrong with life?
Well, if you ask me
and I give you an answer based on my own many years of 'wild'
personal development (you can read a bit about those on the
the Personal Development Guy
) plus my current state
of being then I would have to answer you (and this is point
number two):There is nothing wrong with you and there
is nothing wrong with life. Everything is as it should be.
You, however, may not be
experiencing this (that all is as it should be). Chances are,
you'll be telling me that you and your life are NOT as should
be and that you most certainly need personal development and
self improvement (and perhaps spiritual development, too) to
make everything better.
And you'd be telling the truth.
But, then again, so am I.
So, where does that leave
us in regard to the question 'what is personal development?'
Well, ultimately, it all comes down to two things:
- being happy
... which is an ...
And there you have it.What is personal development?
It's the quest for the experience of happiness.
Happy or Dissatisfied?
A few people seem to be more or less
born happy. They just love and enjoy themselves and life to
the fullest, roll with life's punches and make lemonade
whenever life deals them lemons.
Other people seem
intrinsically dissatisfied no matter what and either spend a
lifetime grumbling, complaining and being negative, or spend
their life chasing happiness without ever being able to catch
up with it.
Most folks are somewhere in between and
while their lives are acceptable, they have a feeling their
lives could be so much better if they could just change
certain circumstances or aspects of it - or themselves.
The Truth About Happiness
But what is
the truth about happiness? Well, you can read more about it on
, but to make a long story short happiness
is the experience of life as it really is and that includes
experiencing you as you really are.
Another way of
putting that is that happiness is experiencing absolute
reality. (As opposed to experiencing yourself and life through
the lens of
, which might be called experiencing
relative, personal reality).So, what is personal
development? It is the movement from the experience of
personal reality into the experience of absolute reality.
Does this take a lot of soul searching and hard work? No.
It can, of course, but it doesn't have to.
it's a choice. Most people make this choice subconsciously
with their ego, and so they make it a life long quest (because
the ego doesn't want change, not really).
Dismantling of Your Limitations
The great thing about
absolute reality (and thus happiness) is: it is always there.
It never, ever goes away and you can access it at any time.
All you have to do is remove whatever is standing in the way
of your experience of the happiness that is always there: Your
So, in the end, the simplest and most
powerful kind of personal development is the kind where you
dismantle anything that's limiting you - and perhaps, in the
let go of it
... including your ego.
Whenever you're tempted to keep adding new and better things (e.g.
new self improvement stuff) on top of a base that's not really
working for you, just remember, that this isn't a very stable
The basic things that are holding you
back need to go first.
When you view the question 'what is personal
development?' in this light a big part of it is
of silly thoughts, silly feelings, silly habits, silly needs -
and most of all: silly beliefs.
That sounds so easy,
but it can be quite challenging, of course, because in that
process you will face down your fears. (Those are actually
some of your biggest limitations).
You want to live the
fullest life possible, right? That's why you're asking 'what
is personal development?' or 'What is self improvement?'
Well, then your answer might be this:
development is the conscious decision and effort to make your
experience of yourself and your life a more happy one by
letting go of whatever is limiting you and thus moving from a
relative, personal reality into absolute reality.
the way, if you do that, you will, by extension, improve your
world, too. That happens all by itself. Try it and you'll see.
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