Building self esteem can seem to be so hard, especially when you are
in the depths of despair or depression and feel like the world is collapsing
However, did you know that self esteem activities and self esteem
exercises can help you build positive self esteem, and self esteem building is
actually not as hard as you thought.
Oh, sure, it looks hard now, but that’s
because you are seeing it from the bottom up. When you have figured out how to
build self esteem and you are at the peak of your life, you will realize that it
wasn’t as hard as all that.
Don’t worry about reaching the top today, but just
start taking little baby steps to start improving self esteem and boosting your
life with positive self esteem.
Building self esteem is something that takes
time, but every journey starts with a single step…
Get Started Self Esteem Building Now!
You know how they say “better late than
never”? When it comes to building self esteem, the reality is that “better now
Low self esteem is basically like being in sinking sand.
just spend time sitting and wallowing, you are probably going to sink down. Even
if you don’t sink further into the sand, you certainly aren’t going anywhere in
However, if you make that first move to get out of the trap of low self
esteem, it is going to be a hard one, and that is why most people dread making
that first move.
If you can get past that first obstacle and move even just
your arm, you can reach for the rope to haul yourself out of the sinking sand.
Then you move the other arm, and then your torso, and then your leg, and then
the other leg.
Finally, you have hauled yourself out of the pit of low self
esteem, and all of a sudden possibilities have opened up to you.
low self esteem like this, and use the information below to help you make those
small movements that will help you to get out of that pit you find yourself in
and back onto solid ground where you can wash off all the mud and get on with
your life…Happy Self Esteem Building!
Everyone has bad days, but they are not a valid reason to let yourself stay down
and moping around. Sure you may feel ugly, useless, unattractive, and unloved
every other day of the week, but that is just your mind playing tricks on you.
Don’t let those bad days affect you, but find the good things in life that
will make you a better you!
out with little baby steps that help to boost your self esteem.
could be as simple as smiling at yourself in the mirror every morning, or trying
on a set of clothing that you aren’t sure of. Whatever you can do, do it today!
Babies don’t learn to walk in a single day, and you won’t overcome your low
self esteem and start building self esteem in a day either. One small step for
your self esteem, one giant leap for your life!
Overcoming Low Self Esteem:
Sit down, shut your mouth, and open your mind. Stop talking and start
thinking, and picture yourself as a happy person that feels confident and has
high self esteem. Isn’t that person so attractive? Don’t you wish you could be
You can, and keeping that picture in your mind is one of the
secrets to transforming yourself into that person. If you can picture what you
want to be like, you can do things that will lead you there.
Do you see yourself
smiling at pretty girls or being coy with handsome men? Try it. Do you see
yourself laughing and joking with friends? Why not do it?
Picture it, do it,
and see it realized!
Do What You Are Good At
Everyone has something that they are good at, and I have absolutely no doubt
that you are good at one or more things. Take time to think about it…Can’t think
of anything? What about being good at organizing, being good at drawing, being
good with people, or being good at multi-tasking?
Once you realize that you
are good at something, you will start realizing that you are good at more and
more things. Spend time thinking about those things, and make a list of what you
are good at. Once you have your list, start doing those things as much as you
Hone your skills, and you may find that your life and self esteem will
with low self esteem find themselves tongue-tied when in social gatherings or
situation, but you can’t let that stop you!
Find ways to be social, even
with a person or two that you are comfortable with. Slowly start expanding your
circle of social contacts, hanging out with a friend of a friend or a
boyfriend/girlfriend of a friend. Once your circle begins to expand, you will
see that it won’t be so hard to spend time and socialize with others, and you
can continue to expand your circle faster.
If you can start out by being
social a little more every day, you will eventually realize that it is one of
the most enjoyable things in the world to do.
That’s right: do something that scares the wits out of you
and has your mind gibbering in terror. Why would that work?
Have you ever
sat around a table and heard someone say “Oh yeah, last year I did some crazy
thing”? everyone oohs and aahs at them, and the person feels better about
themselves just by having done something that scares the wits out of them.
Having everyone ooh and ahh at you is pretty awesome, and it will make you feel
a bit better about yourself. If you have done something that no one else has
done, you have something unique about you that gives you an “edge” and makes you
“better” in a certain way. Having this edge will help to boost your self esteem,
and may even show you a few things that you really enjoy!
Practice Makes Perfect
If you have a skill or a talent that you feel
you could be good at, why would you hide it from others or pretend that you
don’t want to do it? If you are good at something, spend as much time as you can
As you start developing your skills in a certain area, you
will come to realize that you really do have something to offer society. The
fact that you are good at something will help to stimulate your mind and open
your eyes to the possibilities that lie ahead of you, and your self esteem will
get a little boost.
The more you practice, the better you will get. The
better your skills are, the more confident you will be in your abilities. The
more confidence you have, the higher your self esteem. It’s a simple cycle, but
it is one that will make your life one million times better.
If there is something else in the same boat of
despair as you are, give them a helping hand and uplift them. There is probably
nothing you feel like doing less than helping someone when you feel gloomy, but
you should do it anyways.
When you help others see the bright side of life
and deal with their low self esteem, all of a sudden the things that you are
dealing with look kind of small and sad. That isn’t to say that your problems
are pathetic, but they may look a lot more foolish when you actually take time
to think about them.
Help others to improve their attitudes, and you may just
find your attitudes about yourself improved as well!
Everyone has something that they want to achieve in
life, either becoming the best Chippendale’s dancer there is, becoming the next
Bill Gates, or finding the secret to life.
It doesn’t matter what you want to do
with yourself, but you do have to have something. You don’t even have to figure
out your purpose in life, but you can easily think of things you want to achieve.
Once you have figured out what you want to do with yourself, set goals. Start
with small goals that are easily broken down into steps that you can take one
day at a time, and make a plan for reaching those little goals.
can only be climbed one step at a time, but you still have to break the climb
down into different stages that you want to reach. Just like Mount Everest is
broken down into different camps that the climbers have to reach, so too your
goals and objectives should be made into smaller objectives that you can reach
by taking small daily steps.
Focus on You
There are always going to be parts of your life that will require your full
attention, as you need to improve in these areas. Find out what they are, and
spend time working on them.
It may be unpleasant to realize that you are
flawed, but those flaws are what make you human. Find out how to deal with the
flaws or manage your weaknesses, and improve your life as best you can. Building
self esteem doesn’t require that you are flawless, but you will need to work on
your weaknesses in order to improve yourself.
There has got to be some reason to do what you are doing,
and most people find that they do what they do because it makes them feel good.
Having money means you can spend it, which is why most people work. Having a
partner means you can have sex and companionship, and being social means that
you have friends who care for you.
Find out what really motivates you in life,
and focus on that motivation. If you don’t think you have a motivation, read
inspirational material, listen to uplifting music or audio files, and get as
much inspiration and motivation as you can from others.
As you find what
motivates other people, you will be able to realize exactly what drives you to
do what you do.
Find the Good
There are things
about you that your family and friends like, and you can find out about these
things by asking. Obviously you don’t want to go around fishing for compliments,
but you can find out what your good traits are just by asking.
Once you find
out what people like about you, find out what they dislike and take steps to
change it. If you can realize that most people will see the good in you rather
than just the negative, life will get a lot easier for you.
Tell yourself that you can do it, and you really can. In
the end it all comes down to what you think in your mind and tell yourself in
If you think you can’t do it, then you can’t. If you know you can
achieve it, there will be nothing that can stop you.
Affirming to yourself is
the secret of building self esteem and overcoming low self esteem, and it will
help you to face your problems and overcome them.
Everyone has things that they
don’t like, but focusing on the positive things and affirming them will make all
the difference in the world.
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