Finding Inner Peace - How to Find Inner Peace by Accepting Yourself and Reality

• Finding inner peace may not be as hard as you think

• This self improvement article will tell you how to find inner peace
• It will show you a 'two-step dance' ...
• ... and 3 self improvement techniques you can use

• Fact: If you accept reality you get inner peace!

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So, you want to find inner peace, huh? Great!

Well, I have got good news and bad news for you.

Let me give you the bad news first: You are not going to find inner peace. Does that sound overly harsh? It is not, because here's the good news: You have already got perfect inner peace.

Since you are reading this, though, odds are that you are not experiencing that inner peace. So, let's do something about that!

This self improvement article aims to lead you on the right track towards the serenity you desire. I will present you with a quick and simple two-step dance that tells you how to find inner peace (even if just briefly), and then I will follow up by giving you some inner peace tips to deepen that experience and make it last longer.

You've Got It! Realizing the Truth about Inner Peace

Step 1 in finding inner peace is realizing that the above statement about you already having the very thing you desire is true.

If you are feeling stressed out, scared, confused or something else that isn't very pleasant, then you will have a hard time with this step. In the end you may just have to take my word for it.

Why should you? Because while I do not experience perfect inner peace all the time I do experience it most of the time - which is a LOT more than I did, say, 7 years ago. Also, I regularly help other people experience inner peace - even if sometimes they are totally strung out and can only stay in that nice place for a short period of time while they are together with me. So, I know what I am talking about, here.

The fact of the matter is that inner peace is a part of who you are. It is an aspect of your most basic identity. Inner peace is, in other words, something you ARE. You cannot lose that. No matter what.

You can lose sight of it, you can become far removed from the experience of it, but it is always there, just waiting for you to rediscover it. Understanding this, even if it is just intellectually with your mind and not yet emotionally, is the first step towards finding inner peace.

Finding Inner Peace: Trying It Out

Step 2 in finding inner peace is letting go of your thoughts, just for a while.

If you are like most people, your mind is a chatterbox, constantly yapping about this and that, often the same things over and over. While there is nothing wrong with that per se (other than it gets old with all the repetition), it does keep you from finding the inner peace you desire. Why?

Because more than 90 percent of your mind's chatter is fear based. And guess what? There is no finding inner peace if you are scared all the time. So the endless mind chatter has to go. It doesn't have to go away, but you have to stop listening to it and - most particularly - believing in it.

Let the chatterbox chatter away, just stop listening to it, believing in it and acting upon it. Even if it is just for a brief while every day.

Finding Inner Peace: Three Ways to Go

Some people get this effect (shutting off the mental chatter) by means of meditation. Good for them. Personally I have never been attracted to the regular kind of meditation, so I spent some time learning a shortcut by means of neuro-feedback (but that is another story).

Self Improvement Techniques

Alternatively, you can use some relatively simple techniques like 'the Journey' by Brandon Bays, 'the Work' by Byron Katie, or my own the Let Go Method.

Self improvement techniques like these are actually, ultimately, designed with the purpose of helping you find inner peace. They do this, basically, by helping you realize and experience the truth, or what you might call absolute reality [LINK].

Neither method is necessary, though, all you have to do is make a conscious decision and effort.

Gradually Emptying Your Mind

One way to do that is sitting (or lying) still somewhere where you won't be disturbed, perhaps with your eyes closed, and simply noticing all the thoughts which occur. Every time a thought comes around you tell it 'not now' and mentally flip it into the waste basked. Keep doing that for a while and you will gradually experience finding inner peace.

Practicing Unconditional Acceptance

This way to go is simple enough: Just accept everything. Accept yourself, accept other people, accept life and everything in it. Plain and simple. Even if it is just for 5 or 10 minutes.

Acceptance is a decision. Decisions are yours to make.

Do you have to go somewhere and your vehicle of choice is unavailable or out of order? Just decide to accept this completely, relax, and find another method of transportation.

Are you on your daily 'finding inner peace quest' but the neighbours, who are in dire need of some relationship problem advice or some love tips have chosen this moment to have a row? No problem; for the purpose of finding inner peace just accept it without question, and let them have at it while you relax and concentrate on feeling acceptance no matter what.

I am sure you get the point. Muster some acceptance and you are well on your way to finding inner peace; muster enough unconditional acceptance and you have found it.

Practice Makes the Master

That's it, for starters. You now know the basics of how to find inner peace at will, anytime you choose. For a while. (And even if you don't 'get' it right off, practice really does make the master).

Staying in that experience, though, keeping your inner peace, is another matter - for which you need more information (coming right up! Please read on).

Finding Inner Peace: Deepening and Expanding the Experience

If you want more than just to find inner peace for a brief while; if you plan on deepening and expanding that pleasant period of serenity, then you need to deal with at least three additional things:

- stressors (things that stress you, i.e. fears)
- your perceived needs
- your beliefs

Next, I am going to give you some quick hints and pointers about that.

Finding Inner Peace: Identifying and Eliminating Your Stressors

Stress is actually a kind of fear. You worry that you won't make it on time, or that you won't be able to do it properly, or any other thing that you fear and really don't want to see come true. Stress is fear, and fear not only makes you stupid it also keeps you from finding inner peace.

That is just the way it is. So, what you need to do is pay attention to and note all the things that make you stressed, even if it is just a little bit stressed - and transform or eliminate those stressors.

Some hints: There are general stressors which affect almost everybody and there are stressors which are more individual, just for you.

General StressorsAn example of a general stressor is the so-called news on TV for example; since this news almost exclusively fear based watching it will almost certainly make you stressed at some (unconscious) level.

Individual StressorsAs for individual stressors, they are typically connected to your particular kind of ego psychology (which you can also learn more about by getting to know the Enneagram ).

You will enhance your chances of finding inner peace on a more permanent basis if you identify as many or your stressors as you can and do your best to eliminate or work around them.

Finding Inner Peace: Your Wants and Needs May Disturb You

We all have wants and needs - lots of them. Some folks want recognition or fame, some want money and material possessions; other folks want something else entirely.

Fulfilling our needs and desires is one of the things that keep us going. No problem there. However, when we have the sense that our need are not - or may not be - fulfilled, we move into fear. And, as I am sure you are aware by now, fear will effectively keep you from finding inner peace.

One of the most sure-fire ways to move into fear when it comes to your needs is thinking (or worse; believing) that your needs must be fulfilled from the outside by someone or something other than you.

That is NOT so!

Transforming this thought or belief into one saying that you can and will fulfil ALL your own needs yourself is highly empowering - and an excellent step towards finding inner peace on a more permanent basis.

Finding Inner Peace: Reduce the Number of Beliefs You Hold

Beliefs are things you have decided are true - but for which you do not have incontrovertible proof.

You do not need to believe in your neck, for example, you KNOW it is there, you can feel it with your hand and see it in a mirror.

But when it comes to a question like 'Is Santa Claus real?', for instance, then you need belief to tell yourself that he exists (or not) - because you just don't KNOW.

We all believe lots and lots of things, but strictly speaking you don't need to believe anything. You will live just fine without beliefs. In fact, the fewer beliefs of any kind you hold, the more you will be able to see what I call absolute reality [LINK] and the more easily you will find inner peace - and keep it.

So, just like with your stressors, you can keep a lookout for any and all beliefs you hold and either transform them from being fear based to being based in love and trust - or let them gocompletely.

Changing or letting a belief go is a matter of choice - of making a decision. You just do it ... although a self help technique like the Let Go Methodcan help you do it faster.

Final Words about Finding Inner Peace

As is so often the case in personal development, self improvement, self help, spirituality and self empowermentfinding inner peace pretty much boils down to a choice between all things fear based and, well, reality.

When all is said and done every single method aimed at finding inner peace has to do with accepting yourself, accepting other people and accepting reality.

Acceptance of what is equals inner peace (but does NOT make you passive, quite the contrary). So, now you know the big secret about how to find inner peace: Just accept reality. :-)

The best thing you can do if you want to experience the unconditional love, freedom and inner peace of absolute reality [LINK] is to STOP and let go of any and all things fear based.

That, in and of itself, will lead you straight there. And remember, you don't have to take a huge leap of faith or even a big jump, baby steps will get you there, too.

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