Sex with a Virgin Doesn’t Have to Be Challenging

Making love to a virgin is usually something that many people – men and women alike – tend to see as a bad thing.

After all, doing something for the first time, be it virgin pussy or virgin anal sex, can be quite daunting for many people.

They feel that the fact that they are having sex with a virgin and her tight virgin pussy or young virgin penis makes it harder, especially for female virgins. Many men love it on their virgin fuck, but it can be far more painful for a virgin vagina to break the virgin hymen and accept the penis.

However, there is no need to be afraid, as there are many virgin sex tips that can help you to learn about how to deal with a technical virgin, what virgins having sex should do, and other sex tips for virgins.

These tips will help you get through the ordeal, and may even help you to give the person a virgin orgasm or three.

The bar may be set high, but it is not so dramatic as you might think. Use the sex tips below to help you to have sex with a virgin and enjoy it!

Things All Female Virgins Should Know

If you are a lovely lady who has yet to pop her cherry, there is nothing to worry about. Here are a few things that you should know about for your first real virgin sex experience:

1. Get it right – If the man doesn’t have too much idea of what he is doing, he may stick it in the wrong place (ouch!). Make sure that the penis goes in the right place, using your hand to guide it in if necessary.

2. Lubrication is the key – Seeing as you are having virgin sex, you will most likely be dry due to uneasiness and anxiety, and maybe your virgin hymen is just one of the issues you have to face. Your virgin pussy is going to be fairly tight, but using lube will help the penis to slip in without hurting too much. The more lube (a hypoallergenic one), the easier it will slip in, so don’t rely on your natural lube alone.

3. Use birth control. Condoms may make it uncomfortable, but it is far the best way to make sure that you don't become pregnant and don't catch any kind of venereal disease. If you don't want to use condoms, then at least consider other kinds of birth control.

Keeping these things in mind will make it easier for you to face your first time virgin sex, and will help it to be more pleasurable.

How to Make Love to a Virgin Sex Tips

If you are about to have sex with a virgin, it may be hard for you to know what to do. Should you go fast to put it in, or would going slowly be better? How much foreplay is enough, and what should you do when it comes to the moment of truth?

All of these questions and more can be answered by reading the tips below:

Start Slowly – That’s right, you have to start the sex out slowly. Start out with some gentle kissing, and move on to petting and other foreplay. However, don’t rush it, but let the virgin go at the pace that they feel comfortable. Most virgin males will want to rush into it, but many female virgins are worrying about the pain and should take their time.

Slow Down - Remember this - During intercourse, enter her inch by inch and continue to kiss and caress her to reduce her tension. When you start moving in and out, be mindful of your thrusts; thrust slow and steady to avoid lacerations and chafing.

Take Control – As the person with experience in this situation, you are going to have to take control. Make sure that the sex moves at a good pace, allowing the foreplay to move in the direction of sex. Take charge of the sex, and it will give the other person confidence that you know what you are doing and will thus eliminate a good deal of the awkwardness.

Ease Into It – It shouldn’t be something that you rush into, as virgin sex can be painful for many women. Take your time to slowly ease into the rhythm of your foreplay and lovemaking, and don’t rush to insert before it is time. You will know when the virgin is ready, as they will let you know. Until they signal they are ready, take it slowly.

Use Lubrication – Lubrication is not only useful to help moisten the vagina, but it can make it much easier for the penis to slip inside without pain. The virgin hymen breaking will cause a bit of pain and bleeding, but you can avoid a good deal of the pain by using plenty of lubrication (a hypoallergenic one).

Speak Out Loud – You should make sure that the virgin knows that you will heed their words when they say they are in pain. They have to feel free to speak out loud is the pain is too much, as that is the only way that they will be comfortable with the situation.

Stop When Needed – If the pain gets to be too much for the virgin, don’t keep forcing the issue. Take a moment or two to cool off, especially if you are getting into it too much. (it may be a good idea to masturbate prior to the sex, as you won’t need to worry about ejaculating too quickly)

Remember that slow and steady wins the race, and you can’t rush it if you want it to be a pleasant experience.

Helping a Virgin Orgasm

Helping a virgin orgasm can be difficult, though the problem is with the women and not the men.
Most virgin men will reach orgasm at record speeds, but women take a bit longer. It may be harder due to the fact that it can be painful.

Want to know how to help a virgin orgasm? Here are some sex tips for virgins to reach an orgasm:

Set the atmosphere. The ability to reach an orgasm is mainly in the mind, so getting her mind in the mood is the key to taking it off the pain that she feels. If she is very much in the mood, she will be able to get past the pain and get to the pleasure.

Relax with her. It will be hard to get her to relax before and during the sex, so you have to help her to relax. Find ways to loosen her up and take her mind off the pain, and it will help to make the vagina loosen up more easily.

Use lots of foreplay. If you can make her reach orgasm by using oral sex or with your fingers, you can bet that she will be very interested in reaching orgasm during sex. Use foreplay to help her orgasm as many times as possible before getting to the sex, and switch between the types of sex as necessary.

Talk to her. As she experiences the pain and then pleasure of virgin sex, you need to be certain that you know what she is going through. You can see on her face when she is experiencing pain, but most virgins are not adept at showing their pleasure. Have her talk to you so you can know what to do or stop doing.

Tongue, finger, penis. The secret to giving her an orgasm on her first time is to do it right. Use your tongue to get her in the mood and very receptive, and use your finger to start preparing the way. Lubricate and insert one finger until it is all the way in, and use that by itself for a few minutes. Try and insert a second finger, and go slowly until you get it all the way in. Once it’s in and no longer causing pain, she is ready for the penis.

Go slowly, but get her there. Remember that taking it slowly is the way to go, but you can’t give up even if it hurts. It is going to hurt, but the pleasure that she will feel once she has finally reached orgasm will definitely make up for it. Keep on trying until she finally reaches that orgasm.

It will take time, and a lot of patience, but a virgin orgasm is actually a lot easier than you might think.

Sex Tips for Virgins -- Male Virgins

If you are a man having sex for the first time, here are some things to keep in mind:

• Your penis may get shy when it comes to your first sex experience, and it may not get hard right away. It’s natural, so don’t give up.

• You are going to reach an orgasm far more quickly than you do when you masturbate, but it’s nothing to be embarrassed about. Give it a few minutes to recover, and start the fun again.

• Size and shape don’t matter right now; what matters is that you are enjoying your first time!

• You may or may not be a good lover, but your first time won’t set the tone. Your skills will improve as you have more sex.

Sex Tips for Virgins -- Female Virgins

Are you a woman having sex for the first time? Remember:

• You’re in control when it comes to penetration of your pussy, so don’t let him get out of hand.

• It will hurt, though not as badly or as long as you might have expected. There is no hymen or only part hymen on many women: The reason can be that they are born without, sports, tampons, dildos, etc.

• Try whatever position you feel best with, and make sure that you feel good as the penis goes inside your vagina.

• Don’t worry if you don’t reach orgasm the first time, as the pain often makes it harder for you to feel the pleasure.

• If your man ejaculates while trying to deflower you, don’t worry. It’s very common due to the fact that you have a tight young virgin pussy, and that pressure makes the man ejaculate more quickly. Give him a few minutes, and try again.

It doesn’t have to be a painful experience, but it can actually be fun for the both of you. After all, you are trying something new and fun, so enjoy it as much as you can!

Making Love to a Virgin: Virgin Stories and Advice

Pete is a man who has lots of experience with female virgins and he actually enjoys the challenge.

He went through a phase when he was really interested in virgins and their deflowering, and he learned a lot about dealing with virgins. One thing that he reminds all guys having sex with a woman for her first time is:

This is of the utmost importance. You have to be confident, even if you don’t feel it. She is already feeling awkward about it, so you can’t show that you are awkward as well.

Be confident in what you are doing, and show her that you know what you are doing. Fake it till you make it! She is already pretty terrified of the whole experience, so reassure her with your actions that you know what you’re doing.

Georgia also has lots of experience, though with young virgin men (though she has helped her share of young women as well).

She says that she finds young men absolutely arousing, and the fact that they can usually go three or more times a night is always a plus!

She isn’t into the virginity, but she finds that most virgin men are usually incredibly willing to learn and do their best – translating into great sex! Her advice to virgin men:

Don’t worry if it’s your first time with a woman, but don’t feel obligated to tell her if you haven’t been dating for a long time.
Some women find it very arousing when a man is a virgin, but it may be a turn-off for a woman.

Be prepared, make sure to masturbate an hour or so before sex (makes you take longer to ejaculate), but have fun with it and don’t be embarrassed that it is over so quickly!

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