Let People Learn Their Own Lessons!
by Petra G.
(Petra G., Köln (Cologne), Germany)
(Visitor's Self Improvement Ideas:)
Being helpful and having compassion is wonderful. Taking the worries of other people on your own shoulders not so much.
Let me give you an example: My little sister is always getting herself into trouble. Many different kinds of trouble. So, I worry about her too much. Not good for me! Also, it makes her angry. She says: "You are interfering in my life."
So, I discussed this with my boyfriend. Big surprise! He agrees. I am looking out for my sister, but he says it is much too much and I should leave her alone. At first this made me very angry, but now I see their point.
I am not my sister. She must learn her own lessons. Also, she must make her own mistakes. I cannot 'save' her. What I can do is be there always and help her IF SHE ASKS ME TO.
Already my relationship with her is better. She is not so angry anymore and is smiling more.
This is a big lesson for me! Maybe for you, too? Are you taking responsibility for someone who really must learn their own lessons?