But what about making love during
Surely you will want to be having sex while pregnant!
Rest assured - it is totally okay!
This self help article on pregnancy and
sex will tell you about it.
Making Love During Pregnancy?
Some folks find having
sex while pregnant 'improper' or 'too kinky' or 'weird' or
just plain 'nasty'. Basically, though, these are unhealthy
notions. Sex during pregnancy is just as natural and alright
as having sex with your lover at any other time.
And no ...
Having sex while pregnant or wanting to have sex while
pregnant do not mean that the woman is a 'slut' or that the
man is a 'horny bastard' or a 'hog'. (Although either of you
might be just that regardless of the pregnancy, of course, and
if your libidos match that might actually make for a wonderful
Read on for some love making tips on
pregnancy and sex.
We Are Made for Love Making
- at All Times
Anyways, making love during pregnancy is
natural. We humans are among the few denizens of the animal
kingdom who have and (hopefully) enjoy sex all year round.
So, obviously, sex between human beings is not 'just' about
procreating and getting pregnant. Having sex while pregnant is
about shared heights of pleasure which strengthen the bonds of
intimate love - just like making love at any other time in
Yeah, okay, you might have had sex partly
with the intention of getting pregnant, but hopefully it was
never 'only' about that.
Some women want less sex while
pregnant, some are unaffected, but quite a lot of women
actually find that their sexual cravings increase while they
are pregnant. Yes, it is true, I kid you not.
might be because they are more relaxed now that pregnancy has
been achieved. It may be because the feeling of being pregnant
is an aphrodisiac for them. It may be hormonal or because they
have a hard-wired instinct to get even closer to the father of
the baby before its birth. Which basically seems like a great
The True Concern About Making Love
The only real concern about having sex
while pregnant is doing it right (which really isn't all that
hard). A woman's body is clearly different when she is
pregnant. A future human life is growing inside her and her
body may feel very differently from before - to both of you.
Her body is certainly bigger and her nipples might get sore,
Also, a little bit of care must be taken so
that she doesn't get hurt and the growing baby doesn't get
damaged when having sex while pregnant. With the more basic
kinds of sex this isn't a problem at all; the female body is
built for making love during pregnancy, but with some of the
wilder, more 'kinky' kinds of sex (e.g. domination, spanking,
etc.) it is a good idea to take care and maybe moderate the
fun a bit.
Making Love During Pregnancy:
Communication Is Paramount!
To start with, please
remember to keep the communication flowing. If you want a good
sex life this should always be what's going on, but both women
and men may have different emotions during pregnancy - and
these emotions can affect your sex life considerably.
Examples: The woman's sex drive, her cravings, might be
smaller or greater now. To a lesser extent the same goes for
the man. Either of you might develop new likes and dislikes.
One of you might suddenly develop a craving for oral sex, say,
or suddenly find it to be a bit of a turn-off.
matter what, just tell your partner about your feelings in a
kind, loving and non-judgemental fashion. Odds are that your
likes and dislikes will change again, so both of your just
need to have patience. If you are accepting of each other's
feelings, and you never turn (any kind of) sex into a duty for
either one of you (ever!), you'll be fine.
need to talk openly and honestly about all these things.
Simply 'put it all out there' and KEEP TALKING until you see
eye to eye on whatever issues come up. This is usually the
simplest way to resolve any such issues.
Lovemaking During the Advancing Pregnancy
pregnancy advances, the woman might start to find certain
positions uncomfortable. The missionary position might be one
of her favorites normally, but after the first trimester is
passed she may not find it enjoyable because of the pressure
on her growing belly.
Women who are into the fourth month
or beyond of pregnancy tend to prefer riding on top, lying
sideways and being penetrated from behind, or standing up and
being penetrated from behind. This is not always true for all
women, of course, figuring out what you both want is what
honest communication is about.
So, try out different
positions. Don't be surprised if a position feels wonderful
one week and terrible the next.
Cervix, Madame! :-)
Making love during pregnancy means
being careful and considerate, of course. If the two of you
usually like going at it 'hot and heavy' you may have to be
more gentle during the pregnancy.
Nooo ... not because a
well endowed man might penetrate the woman deeply enough to
poke the poor baby in the eye, that is a physical
impossibility (don't worry, the baby is very well protected),
but simply because as the baby grows and more pressure is
placed upon the woman's cervix, actual intercourse may become
too painful for her.
But there are other ways of making
love during pregnancy.
You can perform oral sex on each
other. You can masturbate yourselves and each other. The man
can still penetrate her gently with his fingers, his tongue or
a sex toy. And those are but a few of the many very nice
possibilities for making love during pregnancy.
play around with it and see what you are comfortable with
together and do, please, remember to have fun no matter what!
Making Love During Pregnancy: Being Pregnant Is
Carrying a baby often makes a woman tired, so
a key to making love during pregnancy is to do it whenever you
are together and have the energy for it.
If you're used to
having sex at night, well, that might not work any longer, as
the woman may be quite tired by the time early evening rolls
around. So ... Would you really mind having sex first thing in
the morning, or having an afternoon delight? I didn't think
Big Is Beautiful!
The woman may
feel like she's a whale and not pleasant to look at. If we
look at it from a non-biased, natural perspective nothing
could be further from the truth.
The pregnant woman is the
epitome of fertility and abundance and the both of you might
as well enjoy this while it lasts.
As the man, tell
your woman how beautiful she is while she is pregnant. She
needs to hear it.
As the woman, you should know that
the reality is that many men find their women to be at their
most beautiful when they're pregnant.
But, okay, some
folks, both women and men, have a hard time with the way the
woman's body changes as the pregnancy advances. If either of
you feels like that, talk, talk and talk some more and maybe
go see a counsellor, a coach or a therapist to get the issue
Making Love During Pregnancy: Keep
the Juices Flowing
Having sex while pregnant should not
be a dry affair, either.
Okay, so the hormones fluctuate,
there are mood swings, and certain positions don't work right
now, but don't shy away from keeping things spicy in bed just
because of that.
Rather, use it as an incentive to try
out new things: jellies, oils and creams, maybe, or some new
accessories, or doing it in nature or in other new places, or
being slower and more gentle than ever, or simply trying out
some new and exiting love making positions.
experiment with ways to make your lovemaking more romantic or
intense such as with good food & candlelight, scents, music or
sensual, feather-like touching and stroking all over the body.
And please keep in mind: there is absolutely no reason to
shy away from making love during pregnancy - feel free to
enjoy lots of it, in as many different ways as you can come up
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