Why You Want a G-Spot Vibrator
Have you been considering getting a g-spot vibrator? Or, perhaps you've heard of it, a so-called "sex toy", and you are too embarrassed to look into one ... or, you just feel as if you haven't got enough knowledge about these instruments of personal pleasure to make an informed choice.
You might be a woman looking into this whole concept of a vibrator for the sake of g spot stimulation.
Then again, you might be a man who just wants to drive his woman wild, into ecstasy, with g spot stimulation, and you've thought that a g-spot vibrator could help you achieve this objective. And you may very well be right.
Well, there's no shame in using a vibrator, any more than there is in looking for the pleasure of g spot stimulation. Sex is one of the purest and most natural ways of creating intimacy and showing love.
Even better, the special kind of pleasure it brings also has health benefits. (Among these are strong feelings that life is worth living and some of the benefits associated with working out).
You can have sex with another person. You can have sex with yourself.
As a woman, if you want to sexually pleasure yourself because you're lonely, or because you for whatever reason don't have a lover, you can get yourself a vibrator for g spot stimulation.
Note: In this article, it will always be assumed that the woman's lover is a man. I am fully aware that some women are bi-sexual, and others only sleep with other women. What I say applies to you, too. I just want to keep things simple!
What Is a G-Spot Vibrator?
This vibrator is a kind of those sex toys popularly called "dildoes". These are artificial penises used for female masturbation.
But, the g-spot vibrator is designed with a curved shaft. This curved quality allows you to tantalize and massage your g-spot (or that of your female lover, as a man) for the ultimate g spot stimulation. This is what leads to the heights of female sexual ecstasy.
With the right positioning, nearly any vibrator will be able to provide you with g spot stimulation. But, g-spot vibrators are specially designed to make any position into one for achieving sexual ecstasy. Usually in addition to their curved quality, they have bulbous, angled heads.
There are various makes of the vibrator. If you're a woman who wants to feel "full", you can buy a thicker vibrator made to resemble what a well-endowed man has.
But you may just want g spot stimulation and not care about being filled. If that's what you want, there are vibrators with thin stems and large heads. These let you get "directly to the point!"
You may also find a g-spot vibrator which is of a more exotic design that isn't really like a penis at all. One model, for example, has a vibrating "egg" at the end of a thin, super-flexible shaft.
Try them out and find what works for you. A vibrator isn't all that expensive so you can most likely afford two, and the testing alone might prove to be wonderful fun.
Finding the G Spot
If you're a woman who is new to using sex toys, it's important to understand that the g-spot is not in the same place for every woman.
As you touch yourself trying to find it, you'll know when you've hit it because you'll feel pressure on your bladder.
Finding the g spot may take more than one attempt. However, your efforts definitely pay off in, shall we say, an ecstatic way!
How to Find the G Spot
Knowing how to find the g spot is of course very important for you as a woman. But, where is the g spot?
There's actually no definitive answer and lots of arguing. Answering the question "where is the g spot?" is made more difficult by what we already mentioned above: each women is unique.
- Do not put pressure on yourself emotionally. If you cannot find the g spot your first time trying, don't give up. Don't think that you are "stupid" or that you're some unlucky woman without one. Take your time. This is some of the most exciting "research" that you will ever do!
- Find your g-spot by yourself. Trying to find it with a lover, or trying to make him find it for you, is no good. It just leads to performance anxiety. The best way to kill all sexual pleasure is with performance anxiety.
And when finding your g spot, don't have any goals in mind except finding it. Don't go for multiple orgasms, and so on and so forth.
"Sexploration" is about the journey, not about arriving. Not that arriving is a bad thing!
- Before you begin, arouse yourself in ways that you know turn you on. Once you're sexually aroused, you'll be more relaxed. Also, the area around the g spot is spongy. When you're aroused, it becomes engorged with blood the way a man's penis does when he is sexually aroused. This engorgement will make it much easier for you to find.
- You can lie on your back or on your stomach. You can also squat as you would if you were having intercourse with a man with yourself on top. Put your hand palm-down on your vulva. Slowly insert a finger (index or middle) into your vagina. Your vagina needs to be wet for this, so you may use lubrication if you feel the need. Next, crook your finger as if you were saying "come hither". At a spot on or close to your finger's second knuckle, you should be able to feel a slightly ridge area on your vagina's upper wall. This is noticeably distinct from the other, smooth areas of the vaginal walls.
- Become very mindful of how your g-spot feels, physically. It will be a good to explore it at different times at different highs or lows of arousal, since it expands when you're aroused.
With this exploration you're becoming more self-aware, and more aware of your own body.
Read more about this on this page G spot orgasm.
Exploring with the G-Spot Vibrator
Now that you know how to give yourself g spot stimulation, you will probably find the g-spot vibrator better than your hands. (We should mention, however, that having your lover give you a g spot massage with his hands can be incredibly intimate and thrillingly pleasurable. So don't forget the g spot massage when you're not alone!)
Explore yourself with more than one g-spot vibrator.
You may find that you want different sexual stimulation at different times. You may want to go right for the spot. Or you may want the sensation of feeling full. Explore how using the vibrator in different ways makes you feel. Explore how the different vibrators make you feel.
Most women find that their g-spot responds to relatively hard (but of course not painful) pressure. Explore using short, quick strokes with your vibrator against the spot. Imagine a lover who is deeply inside you and keeping himself inside.
You could find yourself using circular motions and going more slowly at first as you use the vibrator. But then you could quite easily start thrusting it in harder and faster. Don't feel ashamed to give in to the natural inclinations. These follow the natural progression of much sexual intercourse with a man. Remember that your g spot stimulation is what matters. You deserve the fulfillment.
You may well find yourself feeling the urge to "go pee-pee" with enough g spot stimulation. This, too, is natural. Just "hold it" for several seconds and let the urge subside. (It's not urine that you want to "pee out" anyway! Read a lot more about that here.) Once you have reached a stage of high arousal and you're feeling "tingly", try touching your clitoris, too. Give yourself the ultimate experience.
With g spot stimulation and clitoral touching you should be able to climax orgasmically. However, if you don't at first ... try again. And again! Don't be ashamed and don't give up.
"Why Should I Use a G-Spot Vibrator?"
A lot of women might wonder why they should need or desire a vibrator.
There are various reasons for their feelings. Some women who have husbands or lovers might feel like they are "cheating" with a vibrator. Or, they might wonder if their men don't love them enough, since they are temped to buy the toy.
Some others might feel as if they are "freaks" for wanting a man and the vibrator (sometimes together!).
Understand that the vast majority of women masturbate. Some more than others. Most men masturbate to one degree or another, too. This clearly applies to women and men who are married or in committed relationships, then. Masturbation strongly tends to be thought of as a "guy thing". But it's just not true.
Masturbation is not disgusting unless you find yourself addicted to it. Then you have a medical, psychological problem. But if your family, pastor, priest, or community of friends have shamed you about it, you need to rethink their so-called "advice". Maybe you are thinking about a g spot vibrator because you need newfound sexual freedom.
Wanting to use a vibrator doesn't mean anything negative at all. You are not oversexed. You are not possessed by a demon. You are not immoral. Your lover is not necessarily bad in bed, or lacking love for you.
There are women who are lonely. They may want a vibrator as an alternative to one-night stands (which can be emotionally empty as well as dangerous health-wise).
Some happily married or committed women want to fantasize about having two men love them at the same time. If they use a vibrator along with intercourse, they can fulfill their fantasy.
There are also women who choose to be alone. They have their reasons. But, they still have sexual cravings. Using a toy is their solution within their own chosen lifestyle.
There are women whose lovers or husbands travel a lot. They would rather use their toy than be faithless and have affairs when alone.
There are women who crave more sexual stimulation than their lover does. If they want to stay in the relationship, using a sex toy can be a healthy way of preventing a breakup.
Some women find themselves with a man who is uncomfortable with the whole "g spot stimulation thing". He may want to fulfill her but doesn't like the performance pressure of needing to hit "the ol' spot".
Yet other women find that they want to explore themselves privately so that they can do new, thrilling, pleasurable things with their man when with him. They love "practicing" in private to pleasure and surprise him in person!
In Conclusion about the G Spot Vibrator and More
Look up or go to the store and check out models of vibrators. Pick one out for yourself. (If you're a man, pick one for your woman.) Trust to your instincts, shamelessly!
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